Wait are you going to try and tell me it’s more acceptable for a big woman to date a hot guy than for a big guy to date a hot woman? Have you ever been to… um… the world?
This is so fucking common we see it fucking everywhere. Fat chick date hot guy however?
IT MAKES THE FUCKING NEWS!
TRY AND FUCKING TELL ME IT’S HARD TO BE A MAN. FUCKING TRY.
I think the struggles that men and women face are different. Yes, it’s more common in the media (and perhaps real life) for a heavy man to be with a thin woman, but look at how those male characters are portrayed. Homer, Peter, Doug, Bill and Jim are the bufoonish comics to their wives’ straight men. When heavier women are paired with thinner men in shows like My Mad Fat Diary and Ugly Betty (which I acknowledge doesn’t happen nearly as often) effort is made not to demean the women but to portray them as intelligent and self-aware individuals.
I think the media (and society at large) is becoming increasingly aware of the difficulties that women face and efforts are being made to humanize them and cut back on cruel caricatures like (fat!Monica from Friends). However, because men don’t have the same history of gender-based oppression that women do, much less effort is being put into doing the same for them.
Men and women are equally capable of emotional vulnerability. Yes, societally women face much more pressure to be attractive than men but that doesn’t mean that an individual man can’t feel just as bad about himself as a woman. The difference is that society is AWARE of the woman’s insecurity and vulnerability. Men … not so much. Or at least, not in the same way.